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June 28, 2007
Ahmagod! Dr. Love!
Reading ANP's blog this a.m., trying to suck down my suuuper-hot coffee before hitting the road, I came across this bit of insight from her apparently Ph.D'ed (? or something) friend who has the SKINNY when it comes to MEN(ny)...Ready? Brace.
I have two pieces of advice:
1. Make sure your love interest shares your interests and values. Opposites do not attract - after the novelty has worn off, they repel. There is real social psychological data to back this up… If he spends his free time smoking pot and going to parties while you are busy with school, work, and extracurriculars … it won’t work out. If he spends his free time playing football, joining secret societies, and fucking other girls … it won’t work out.
2. Make sure your love interest is totally smitten with you. Does he call or text you just to say hi? Does he ask you out on dates, or do you usually arrange that? Does he bring you cards, flowers, books, music, food? Does he make you dinner? If he’s not the romantic type, does he offer to fix your toaster, leaky faucet, or do your tax returns? If you can’t remember the last time (or anytime) he did something thoughtful for you outside the bedroom, you should dump him ASAP and move on. (PS - You should also do thoughtful things for him).
Sooo, if you guys share interests and values, and he is sweet and thoughtful towards you, you should just tell him that you’re really into him and you want to be exclusive. If he says that he is not ready for that, dump him and move on. Never waste your time waiting for a man to be ready.
I love this. It is EXACTLY the same point my brother made in a text message to me of recent that I've saved and look at often to give myself the briggs:
"Don't waste your tears on him. Dump his ass. Fuck his nonsense and do what's right for you which is to find a guy who wants a relationship more than soccer."
Beginning to see the light...and the appropriate song lyrics.
[cue: "If You Can't Rock Me, Somebody Will" by the Stones]
Is my brother the best or VHUT? I'm sooo glad my parents adopted him.
Posted by Bree at June 28, 2007 10:13 AM